CALM BEFORE PRAISE.

 

Normal psychological reaction we when praise, happily, happy, happy, blame, frustration, resentment, pain. These are the two extremes of a mind, which by Buddha are bad, are imperfect response. Because, from misunderstanding, conflict, negativity and ignorance will start.

One day, the Buddha and the monks on the path between Ratagaha and Nalanda. Go after that practitioners degree pagan Suppiyo and a disciple is Brahmadatta. Suppiyo used countless vehicles destroyed by Buddhas, destroyed by the French, canceled in Tibetan. In contrast, young Brahmadatta used countless Buddha means praise, praise France, praised Increase.

When the night has ended, we monks brought the matter to discuss with each other. Buddha go to after His self-taught:

"Bhikkhus, if canceled by us, canceled by France, canceled armband, you do not so constant hate, resentment, psychological and sorrow ..."
"Bhikkhus, if there votes carbon, French praise, praise, a Time not you should be happy, excited, attention should not enjoy ... "

The reason why the Buddha says that, because he said that he was to blame, angry, excited when praise is bad, and do not know the exact words of those who are true or false.

For us when canceled libelous, abusive, hurry to fight aggressively, considering who blamed a rival, implacable. How to deal so often many unwelcome and to be wise. On the contrary, if we silence patience definition review you shall be condemned. On the other hand, if we silence patience at his stroke back, they shall be criticism cute fools.

So why the Buddha advised us not to be angry, angry? Because when angry sorrow rise, the damage to us immediately, is the loss of inner peace and calm, then the argument, debate last incident took place and both parties are not see the truth. In the of Four Cross Second Chapter, Buddha says:

"When bad guys harass, humiliate try silence as people bring gifts courtesy to others, they do not receive, gifts that are returned. As well as face up to spit bubbles in the air, not to air bubbles, on the other hand fell on my face ... "

Such as discarded butts, do not rush to protest, but must consider the point right to the truth, that's not true, I have things I do not have an attitude of calm, honest and objectivity. Behave like that, then the cancellation table was returned to the people, and I have peace and liberation.

Most of us when we are praised, flattered, happy face florid morning, preferring to close the praise. Such behavior is life for reasonable accommodations. So why the Buddha said is harmful and advised us not to react non poor, vulnerable to abuse, fraud, a paper airplane? Through their bile, we easily express sympathy and to accept the lack of clear requirements, in the end we do not see the truth with certainty. Moreover, a Bhikkhu that express the happy, happily a warm way through the praise indicates the lack of economic happiness and hope for the title, easy to fall into the cup of the guys face care. Despite praise honestly, we must also consider how true things are not true, my point, my point is not available, to avoid being blind or fall into nominal path.

Positive and negative are two contrasting effects, always do our inner perturbed, stimulate or inhibit arousal, bring peace or afflictions, beneficial or detrimental, depending both on the object: give and take.

In the area of ​​education, reward and blame are two formidable weapon to be used in parallel. Previously Eastern education emphasize punishment critics, while Western education focus on the reward of praise. How to manipulate it is depending on the culture and customs of each method, so the consequences are also differences.

Think people praise or criticize, just bring good results, as long as they know how to use these two contrasting forces at the right time, apply psychological each object, to be honest, in the spirit eager to build for progress. Conversely a positive, negative irresponsibility, lack of objectivity and the mind is not good, he himself is solely responsible for the consequences of not healthy.

Be positive or negative, but which in any case have to be cautious, consider and judge correctly, there should not react held superficial meal, avoid the mistakes and disastrous. In other words it does not matter positive or negative, but to find out the truth, the truth in his words of praise.

In short, calm before praise the attitude of the sage wisdom that people Buddha needs should cultivate the mind. END=VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY THICH CHAN TANH.MHDT.WORLD VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST ORDER.( GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY.AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.6/10/2012).VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUNS ).NAM MO SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).