CULTIVATING EQUANIMITY.

To show true compassion for people, we have to remove the bias in our attitude towards them. The thought of our normal for others is always dominated by emotional impact and vibration discrimination. We have close feeling with our wounded. For those not familiar strangers or distant we feel. And for those who hate us, not particularly friendly or how we feel antipathy or contempt. Standards which we classify people into enemies or friends is very clear. If a person close to nice or kind to us, he is our friend. If a person to harm or cause difficulties for us, he is our enemy. Included with the interest that we spend for loved ones is the emotional attachment such as heart and desire to be close to love. Similarly, for those of us we do not like those negative emotions like anger or hatred. Therefore, our compassion for others is always limited, biased, prejudiced, and the condition is whether we feel close to them or not. True compassion is unconditional. We should practice equanimity to overcome discrimination and emotional bias. The way to cultivate equanimity as we reflect on the experience of friendship is not durable. First we need to consider to find nothing to ensure that our friend today will always be friends for life. Similarly, we can imagine that the people we dislike will not necessarily always so. The thought that diffuse the strong emotions of the bias and the constant destruction of feelings linger in us. We can also reflect on the negative consequences of our attachment that we take for friends and enemies aversion. The feelings of our friends and lovers sometimes make us blind. We exaggerate the qualities they desire and where they believe that they are not wrong. Then, when we find things wrong with what we and our exaggerated shock. We rock falls from extreme heights of love and desire down to frustration, alienation and even anger. Even the feeling of satisfaction and fulfillment in a relationship with someone we love can lead to frustration, depression and hatred. These elements have strong feelings as those with romantic love and righteous hatred often are attracted to these emotions and their happiness fleeting. Buddhist perspective, it's better we should not hold such feelings from the start. The consequences of being constrained by what is hatred? The word " Shedang "or" hatred "of Tibet that is where the hostility from deep inside. There is something unreasonable when we respond to injustice with mental or physical harm of hate. The hatred of us did not affect the flesh of our enemies, it does not hurt them. Rather, the leaders we bear adverse consequences, the bitter hatred of our cause . It's opaque cut us from the inside. When angry, we do not know good food. We can not sleep straight sleep, lying over the back way through the night without sleep is. It affects us deeply, while our enemies continue to live happy not knowing about the status of our sorrow. Gone beyond hatred and anger, we can handle any situation with much better results. If we come into contact with equanimity everything we see problems more clearly and thereby helping us to apply the best methods to solve problems. For example, if a child is doing an action that endanger themselves and everyone as playing with matches, we can punish it. When we treat such a straightforward manner, it is very possible that the child will not respond to our anger, but in response to the sense of urgency and concern of ours. This is helping us to know that the real enemy is in our hearts. It is selfishness, our attachment and our anger. We should know the enemy the ability to cause harm to our very limited. If someone challenges our excitement, we should restrain myself not to retaliate, then even though that person may do whatever they can not harm us. In contrast, when strong emotions such as angry, hatred or the desire to appear, they create disorder in our hearts. Immediately they undermine peace in our minds as well as make the sorrow, suffering and destruction of our religious faith. When we practice equanimity, we can recognize that the concept of " enemy "and" friends "are subject to change and depends on many factors. No one is just born with a friend or our enemy and there is no guarantee that the friendship will forever be our friends. "Friends" and "enemies" are classified divided depending on their behavior toward us. The person we believe that they love and care for us, we often see them as friends and loved her. The person we believe that they have bad ideas and want to harm us are our enemies. So, we see people as friends or enemies are based on awareness of the ideas and feelings they have for us. So, no one really is a friend or our enemy. We often confuse the actions of a people and their real human. This habit makes us decide that because of an act or words that, he became our enemy. But actually he is not really you and not the enemy. They are not Buddhists or Christians; is not Chinese; nor Tibetan. In many cases, a person we can contact lasting change and become his best friend. So, no wonder we think: " Oh! You used to be my enemy in the past, but now we are good friends . " Another method to practice social care, as well as overcome emotional bias and discrimination that we should think that people are equal and the desire to be happy with do not like suffering . Plus, we all feel that he may fulfill this desire. How do we advocate for that? Quite simply, it is part of the fundamental nature of man. I'm not the only one, you do not have any privileges. My desire to be happy and overcome suffering is part of my nature; there is also a part of your nature. Thus, all everyone is entitled to happiness and avoid suffering, simply because people have the same fundamental nature. Based on the foundation of this equality, we should develop equanimity towards all. In meditation, we need to practice thinking " I wish myself a happy life and do not like pain, other people, too; myself of course have the right to satisfy this desire, and people also . " We should repeat this idea we meditate on and in daily life until it's instilled in our hearts. As a final important, as human beings, our happiness depends very much on people's lives and our life itself is the result of the contributions of many others. The birth of our dependence on our parents. After that, we need the care and love of our parents for many years. Livelihoods, shelter and livelihood of our, even the success and our reputation is the result of contributions of countless others. Directly or indirectly, related to many of our existence - not to mention our happiness. If we extend inference beyond the limits of one's life, we can see that through our many past lives - in fact, since the beginning of time declared natural sites, many people have countless contributions to our happiness. We can conclude: " We rely on that first to discriminate? Why can express yourself with some friendly and hostile to others? We have to overcome any emotional bias and discrimination. I have to help everyone equally the same . " Principle: The Dalai Lama Translations: Thich Tri Chon Trích từ cuốn sách: “An Open Heart”.END=VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY BACH LIEN HOA.NAM MO SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).22/1/2012.