I. Commentary

Suppose that while talking, preaching a certain problem, but the opposite mind is not focused, then we feel like? Do not review the subject is presented merely important or whether the enemy is a friend, brother, disciple, etc. .. person in a position of authority or the cross just over the road, if after that they distracted talking, have not brought satisfactory results, but also against each other lesions. All of us have self-esteem self-love, so to understand the specific features common in every human being, so to respect the opponent while speaking. This is a method of meditation practice to develop practical wisdom in Buddhism. Because of the importance of it, so would like to present here the subtopics to jointly discuss and hopefully through this, we will gradually grow in the spirit of the Bodhisattva Path.

II. Note that looking at the enemy

When people are listening to talk, we show for them a respect, whereas others presented problems which they have not focused attitude, it seems to have the opposite effect. Professionals listen, we're conveying a message: "Your story made me very emotional, I'm listening and sharing with you here, what would be a pity to go, trust in the future certain fun multiplied ... "And in the meantime, the soul is neglected, not only ignore the information or valuable experience with sweat and tears of the enemy, but also that their expression is the lack of honesty, only more important than external problems are presented. Professionals listen not only to help us remember just received the contents carefully and show interest, but also lead others to trust this product to your good.

III. Self-discipline to listen

The importance of the "focused listening", as we have mentioned through, so to find methods to train ourselves to this noble dignity, as they speak, they feel respected opponent their weight and they also said: "Your presence, has brought great influence in my life ..." There are several methods that can make us actively listen to others say: as non-interlaced or interrupted, focus attention capacity in words, notes the important content if necessary, to ask questions or praise virtue of their good. Thus, for their story, their love and respect animals, but also helps us very clearly defined content, then look for problem-solving approach, avoiding false judgments due to lack of and objective basis. This method if its full effects of it will bring huge benefits.

IV. Find opportunities to ask questions

In our ever sure everyone has an experience: usually think of themselves as very clear understanding of the target problem is presented, but in fact after the end of the conversation, they discovered not capture the all the love that you want.

Professionals listen not just stop at the hearing only, but also dedicated to thinking. When necessary, make appropriate question, when making the problem has been sifting through thoughts, then you can make accurate comments that will be covered more thoroughly integrity. Combined with the encouragement of praise the virtue of their good and promote the good will of the enemy Buddhahood.

V. Hold for radical right

Radical right posture not only protect health but also increase the capacity of attention. Also kind of body language comes from this practice is said to be, I very seriously the words and your gestures. When people talk, radical right posture stared into their eyes (to avoid cases of mistaken), demonstrating the interest and focused on the problem of who is speaking, because as so I will not be the disadvantages, such as restlessness, look to the left glanced, or exhibit a lack of attention or topic of interest is not enough excitement. If the radical right posture, the natural effect of this will be achieved.

Important: language of expression by gesture and action may cause a conflict with the meaning of words, resulting in a wrong purpose and content to convey.

VI. Evade the psychoanalytic

Human brain has a very special ability, at the same time can handle many tasks, but there are two things which are not good.

1. If like us and when people communicate with each other, sometimes people feel the lack of professional focus. If the other person to talk with them, we constantly watch the clock, searching for documents, tired and listless, and looking at books or keep your current job, we have sent donate something to the enemy? We must concentrate not listen carefully?

2. Be careful not to use a mind that the two uses. Attention in the present work, ignoring the distraction factor, such as writing off the radio and television ... to pay a professional job.

VII. Conclusion

The method focused listening can bring many benefits to our advantage when born missionary activities. Their activities not only lectured on hundreds of the audience hall, which covers over the instructions for each individual one, just hope for the right to receive political practices right view, improved thinking and practices of the past or not, seek peace in the present, to free birth and death in the future that is ultimately ours. So this method will be useful in all cases, do not stop for the integration into the Buddhist community, but also will put in mind all classes of society, in their memories always be a shadow renouncer close the noble and honorable.END=VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY BACH LIEN HOA.NAM MO SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).QUANG TUE LIEN .( TSERING DOLMA).TAM NHU ,LE VINH.( TAM THANH PARENTS.)