Mediation, right & left.

"This the Bhikkhu khưu, two people called stupid. Two people? People don't see the failure of failure, and who do not follow the right probably forgive the perpetrator confessed his fault. The couple that is the sleeper.
"The two people called the place. Two people? People found the mistake is mistake, and correct followers probably forgive the perpetrator has confessed to his error. The couple that is two people " (Branch).
"A cause for growth in French Law and the Chief of the Scriptures is when that violation of the Law and his right to compensation, as France and the future shapers" (Samannaphala Sutta).
The Buddha has succeeded in establishing a religion has been and is a true force for peace and harmony, not only because he has value of these qualities but also because he has taken the directions carefully about how to reach them through forgiveness and reconciliation. The focus of this guidance is the wisdom of Jesus, that forgiveness is one thing, mediation is a different job.
Forgiveness is Pàli, khama, also means "the land." Mind as the land does not react and not disturbing. When I hurt you that you forgive me, then you decided not to respond, not to seek revenge. You don't necessarily have to like me. You just take off the burden of his anger problems and cut past resentment which if not the minus column, we will be together in the ring game of horrible sense of reincarnation. It's the gift that you can donate to both of us, this achievement is purely because you don't need me to know or understand her job.
Conciliation (patisaraniya-kamma), meaning back to intimacy, requiring more than forgiveness. It requires restoring confidence again. If I deny responsibility for my actions, or the insistence that he did nothing wrong at all, then there is nothing we can mediate. Similarly, if I keep the life feeling certain that isn't important, or that you have no right to arrest me under the standard of right and wrong of you, then you are not trustworthy is that I won't hurt you anymore. To have your trust again, I have to show my respect for you, and with our common standards about what is possible and attitude is not acceptable; I have to admit that I make you sore and was wrong in doing so; and to promise restraint in the future. Meanwhile, you also have to create for me confidence through your respect in the process going to mediation. Just then, our friendship can be a strong foothold.
So, there are right and wrong ways to go to mediation: type meet the factors needed to rebuild trust, and do not meet the elements. To encourage the proper reconciliation among his disciples, the Buddha gave a detailed method to accomplish this, along with the cultivation of the values that encourage the application of the method.
This method is in the Vinaya Pàli, guide the Bhikkhu khưu how can reveal to each other, how to make peace with those in which they were treated properly, how to mediate the long-standing dispute on, and how the levees heal the divisions split within them. Although available for monksthe head contains a principle that applies to anyone who wants to seek to reconcile the differences, whether of individuals or of the Chief Justice.
In all cases, the first step is recognizing the mistake. If a Bhikkhu khưu reveal an error was committed, such as insulting a Bhikkhu khưu, where he first confessed to have said insulting words. Next, he recognized that the abuse of this right are breaking the law. Finally, he promised to refrain from so as not to repeat this mistake in the future. A Bhikkhu khưu want to reconcile with a person in the home also follow her patterns, with the mediation of a Bhikkhu khưu, has good relations with people at the other end. If a disputes cause them to Rise were divided into two groups, and both have behaved inappropriately, then the two groups wanted to go to mediation, they are advised to first of all have to relieve doubt by permission "as the rich discussions"-the grass-covered soil dyspepsia marsh to step. Both parties must have the lyrics reveal an overview of jobs of wrongdoing, and promised not to sort through the fault of another. This helps them to only pay attention to these things wrong, if any, have created the dispute or make the dispute unfolding.
To heal the divisions, factions in these increases, the two parties be directed foremost to find out the main direction from either side came to a split, because if the direction that so furtively or misdeed, settlement will not occur. If it can find ways to patch dwell temporarily without digging deep into the roots of the split, then nothing actually heal at all. Only if the main direction caused the split to be found that can be settled, and the difference is settled, then they Increase can perform rituals to re-establish harmony.
Spread across this teachings is to see clearly that the true reconciliation cannot be based solely on the desire of harmony that had been. It requires a common understanding of the action would cause a loss of harmony, and a promise to try to avoid such actions in the future. And this in turn requires an agreement very clear about the standards of true-false, and our commitment to them. For oil on the reconciliation agreement is not agree with each other, their agreement contracts need to delineate clearly the right and wrong ways of dealing with these differences.
But to the left, right and wrong were sentenced within the Western Buddhist, largely because Western people have witnessed these abuses are left, right and wrong in his culture-such as when a person sought to impose arbitrary standards, or the cruel punishment of other guys up, or habitually hypocrisyrequires that the other guys have to abide by the standards that themselves do not follow.
To avoid the abuse of this, some people have suggested that life's not athletic, pass the problems on to the left, right and wrong. However, this view also inevitably abused. In the community that this theory was advocated, the irresponsible members can use the guise of amphibians is not natural and not obstacles to advocate for real action in nature, their harmful effects; the victims were dropping helpless, without any common standard would to could slash on it that requires that the compatriots of injustice. Action, even forgiveness is also questionable in the context, because victims took the authority to judge what is right or wrong but forgive or not to forgive? And often, the victims are people who were already imposing its standards on the other guys, and cannot afford to pass up on the athletic look.
What this means is left, right and wrong has not really been overcome in such communities. They are about to reset only: if he can on the prospect of not thoroughly, then he's in the right, regardless of what he was doing. If he complains about another's demeanour, he is in the wrong. And since this arrangement not be publicly acknowledged as such, it creates an atmosphere of hypocrisy, which could not have been the true reconciliation.
So, the solution does not lie in giving to the left, right and wrong, that is how to use them wisely. Hence, the Buddha has support for his mediation method in the cultivation of values which are left, right and wrong are the means of support, rather than being the stumbling block for the mediation. To prevent those in the right abuses his position, He advised them to review themselves before getting guilty people. The question was He advised reviewed can be summarized as follows: "I myself have been pure, no faults have yet to repent or not? There are my motivation is pleasing words, rather like revenge or not? I have truly aware of the shared values of both sides? " Only if they can answer "Yes" to this question, then they should raise the issue. In addition, the Buddha recommended that they necessarily have to say the words, right time, modest, aimed at the problem, and promoting from your words. Their motives must be compassionate, Unicorn introspection to the benefit of all those involved, and a desire to see people doing wrong was modified, with the higher desire is fairness with those principles are left, right and wrong.
To encourage people to do wrong see mediation as a victory, not a defeat, the Buddha commended the honestly express error is a venerable action, rather shameful: it's not just a medium, which is the primary means to go to in progress. As he was talking with Rahu La that the ability to recognise his error and confessed them with others is fundamental to achieving the purity where thoughts, words, and deeds (Ambalatthika-rahulovada Sutta). Or as he says in the Dhammapada (Dhammapada), that anyone who realizes his error and amended the "dazzling glare this life, like the Moon escaping the cloud cover" (173 cu in).
In addition to making the word of encouragement for the honestly express error, the Buddha also prevent any denial. The modern anthropologist took out five core strategies that people usually use to sidestep leader when they cause harm. And notably: Dhamma moral responsibility in Pali organ played a role both in this strategy. Five strategies are: denial of responsibility, denial of the incident is that the losses were caused, deny the value of attacking the victim, who reported the crimes, and claimed to do so is to serve a purpose more lofty. The answer in this strategy for the Pali organ is: 1-we always take responsibility for those choices conscious of themselves. 2-we must always put ourselves in the circumstances of the other guys. 3-All sentient beings are worthy of respect. 4-we have to see the error only for themselves as guys are just for her treasures. (Actually, the renunciation was not proved to be irreverent with respect to those who criticize them, although they have not responded to criticism he goes again). 5-no-repeat, no-lofty goals that may be excuse for the violation of the fundamental precepts of moral living.
To make these standards, the Buddha has built up the value of the platform encouraged the two sides to mediation using speech, and always look back at ourselves honestly and responsibly – basic principles for all the austerities. As such, the standard right-wrong in conduct, instead of stifling or gibberish, again give rise to deep trust and lasting. In addition to creating harmony outside help for the practice, the process of mediation is also an opportunity for growth, mature inside.
Buddha recognized that not dissension may go to mediation. There are times when one or both sides have good will practice honesty and self--it is imperative to have, if you want to go to mediation. Even so, forgiveness can still get, if desired. That's why the distinction between reconciliation and forgiveness is very important. It encourages does an diocese with such forgiveness only while there can be a reconciliation, genuine; and it allows us to open hearts to forgive, even if can't get the heal, reconcile. END= VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY THICH CHAN TANH.WORLD VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST ORDER=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUNS=GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.14/4/2013.NAM MO SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).