Learning Compassion For Yourself.

 

We hear a lot about having to practice compassion on yourself forever struggling but do not know where to start! There are those who say we must learn to live sacrifice for others new bloom compassion. But there are people who say that compassion without wisdom is a fool foolish, ignorant. The story made the subject of compassion is more compelling question: 'Should or should not give homeless people money, no house, no shelters (homeless)?' There are people that should not because if you give them money, they can buy alcohol to drink less alcohol in it and when can they will not mind their sanity; therefore, they can become violent, and can kill people. They are now caused by them gave them some money, however small, should create conditions for their crimes. So, I also have the sticky part of it!

Someone has said that compassion should not be calculated. I just used them to go remaining possessions in what is their story. Failure hungry people need food to live if we are not to wonder, maybe they will die of hunger. Thus, it is their lack of moral compassion or not? Others to the table that is sure to buy food for them, if they are hungry, they will have something left abdomen. If they are not hungry, they can save when they eat food. Thus, to avoid creating bad fate for their crimes.

Depending on the preferences of each person choose how best to show compassion. However, you may find that if your wide interest from antiquated and not properly makes his afflictions and uncomfortable! You try to contemplate the maxim: 'A piece on an empty stomach with a full pack when.' The effect of the value of a piece and it's a lot different packages when you know the right time and the time.

But if you consider that century that the reason for wondering whether his chosen way of expressing true compassion for her because ever since applied pleased with yourself yet? I have never 'tried' compassionate with yourself? Of course, when it comes to compassion, we usually think of compassion for others. But Buddha often taught: "Be self up that torch go! ' There is, then ask yourself the excuse of his is. It is through compassion with yourself knowing that we understand how to open compassion for people. We'll be sympathetic when people do get themselves suffering.

If you still tripped because that is compassionate with yourself, you will love being read down the Buddha taught: "Who being attached (ie longer accept self love here is my pride that I accept this, intersection is accepted here as my self), the oscillation. Who is not the unwavering attachment. Who is the unwavering equanimity. Who is the impartial contempt accept (nati). Who does not accept the no disasters come and go. Who does not have to and can not kill time and birth. Who can not kill time without birth and life after this life, no two lives. This is the cessation of suffering. " (Nirvana products Samyutta-Business). Self love is always ego and an affinity for our students and the center of one. Just thinking about her and what belongs to her. But compassion is offering happiness, sufferings, a boundless love, or who do not differentiate.

Compassion not only for applications but also for others including myself are both well. Because I'm a living! If anyone practice compassion with myself not to let the non-market, making his goofy cause less pain, less suffering, for his help reduce disease, less greed, hatred and delusion. No one loves you, loves you by yourself. If our mind every desire is one thing to another very easily lead to anger, frustration and anxiety. That means I do not know for his compassion.

"Standing on the political aspects of anger, pessimism is from the fact that the method is very mysterious. Beijing has said the seven disadvantages of anger, he refuses to let go of, no not transform our anger. First, he looks ugly ...; A second disadvantage is the point we are stuck in the pain of our anger. He lies in pain. The anger curled in their suffering. This is because the pain makes anger. Thirdly, there is not a rich development. Body and soul can not be developed and blossom like a flower. Wednesday is poor in money as well as happiness. Thursday is not well known. Friday is no more you. And Saturday is that people will be reborn in the asura realm, no happiness. That's seven disadvantage of those that embrace their anger not let go to turn. "

There is a true story happened as follows: A professor and researcher on the subject of happiness experienced during the 20 years to find a way to bring happiness. He eventually found and brought all of their school facilities into many books written about happiness. Soon, he became famous for in this world, everyone wants to be happy. So he was invited lecturer around the world happy. He was busy all day preparing any worry, any fly everywhere lecturing. His work seemed like never before! One day, after finishing a lecture audience wants to know if he was lecturing people about happiness, but he himself had felt happy or not? Questions like lightning across natural languages ​​because for years he tirelessly searching for the answer to the question of happiness. But since he himself had never thought about being yourself to feel it!

"Maitri Bhavana French Cafe Compassion meditation is one of the deepest penetration ... It is an effort to bring the self-interest of your course back to you; it is an attempt to bring the item back to the future with your presence; it is an effort to bring you to the point where you are born and not starting vo social circle distort you, not change you into the bizarre (the society had not yet corrupted you). When a child is born it is in a state of meditation. Compassion meditation is immense feeling-way friendship, compassion, compassion. When a child is born it does not know hate, it only knows compassion. Compassion is love itself; anger is something he will learn about later. As news-angry-spicy-bitter-as-can-racing-competition (jealousy), computer-occupied property (possessiveness), extra-soft-as-human-being (envy), it will be studied later. These are the ones society will teach the kids: how to instant-angry-spicy-bitter-as-can-racing-picture, how to lap-contain-hate-filled-specific, as How to feel full of hatred or violence ... Children's trust in man, but eventually they will have experienced being cheated bring them to the difficulties, the problems - experiences which they were opposition, oppression, the experience of which they become terrified. Gradually they will learn all the scams of the world. That's what happened, more or less, for everyone. " *

Word of the Buddha 2,600 years ago contains a fundamental truth about the nature of living beings. That is, man is a social creature (social animal). We can not live without unity, love for ourselves and others. So, practice compassion who will get the benefits as follows:  "Hey Monks, to be liberated from the center practice, practiced, made ​​for fullness, made ​​like chariot, was a base effects, continue to dwell, accumulated, the smart start, waiting time is eleven benefits. What is eleven? 1. Peaceful sleep; 2 - Waking peace; 3 - Do not see the nightmare; 4 - get people to love and cherish; 5 - the non-human love and cherish; 6 - To be upholding the gods; 7 - fire or poison or weapons ... can not be harmed; 8 - calm mind easy; 9 - bright face; 10 - At the time of death, not deluded mind (enlightened mind); 11 - 'Mindfulness is capable of spreading from the center to attain the rank of meditation gender identity (except for the fifth meditation); if not become a saint A-la-han, after death, meditation ranks possessed her gender identity to the heavens result reborn Brahma gender identity ... " .

 There is a story about a lama, who is friend and teacher of the Dalai Lama 14th. Lama One day an audience with the Dalai Lama after away from home imprisonment by the Chinese government inside Tibet management. As an audience, you teary tears, asking for the Dalai Lama presided over the ceremony of his repentance. Appalled, the Dalai Lama asked what he had sinned! His reply was guilty of losing compassion when Chinese soldiers torturing pain. He has no idea and wanted revenge on those who hurt him tortured. As the Dalai Lama once said 14th: "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion have. If you want to be happy, practice compassion have. "  When you lose your compassion for yourself then we lose as well as his own so happy!

 When looking back all that he has done in his life, from the good to the bad. We are not only proud of what I did right, but also to open our hearts to accept the flaws, his regret, had missed cause. Because of the longer time, so I've got to do right, so wrong! Of course, I will try to modify mistakes have caused; but not because of that self-torture. I must learn how to forgive and compassionate with yourself because, if not, I 'm not accepting your true self, a human right and sometimes wrong time, like all other human beings! When denying his compassion for yourself, then try to ask, how you can open compassion for others?

Kristin Neff Professor of the University of Texas was a pioneer compassion to test myself as a tool to promote psychological healing, happiness and better relationships. She compares compassion for yourself (self-compassion) and self-esteem (self-esteem). While high self-esteem is based on the value of high success, the compassion with yourself is a personal quality, in that we appreciate ourselves and treat ourselves kindly because we are human. With a caring attitude for ourselves helps us recognize similarities and our interdependence with others who share our common aspirations and the seeds of suffering.

According to professor Kristin Neff compassion for ourselves does not make us weak, but rather that a remedy can reduce anxiety and increase the ability to recover from failure. It does not require us to deny or suppress the negative experiences of us. The essence of compassion is to admit to yourself the pain, our own feelings; and then, comforted herself by creating emotional warmth, tenderness, and care to suffering, the pain itself. **

In summary, the compassion with yourself often bring many benefits. When you know the kindness with ourselves, we learn to expand our hearts with every experience, our feelings. We also becomes easy compassionate with others than when love is no possession or profit, because true love that will help us have a clean mind to listen. And once the heart is open, the whole life will be good and harmonious. Thanks to the compassion, the desire for others to be happy, will be duplicated up with happiness itself. It is what it is a school's capacity from their ability to treat disease; at the same time, can also help people closer together.END=VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=THICH CHAN TANH.THE MIND OF ENLIGHTMENT.WORLD VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST ORDER=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.1/6/2014.NAM MO SAKYA MUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).