B u cheat? Yes, we all do not deny that. Sometimes we are more irritated, annoyed and grumbling. We are angry and exasperated with this or another for one reason or the other reason. There are many things, many circumstances make us anxious and upset, we often frustrated and angry when something do not follow our wishes. We want everyone to be just like my mind and it failed, we turned crazy angry.
Sometimes we wish that something comes to us (such as on wages), and when that does not happen, we are sad and angry. That's it, everybody wants to encourage provocative, provoke, offend us. They prefer to make us angry and upset.
In fact, the lack of conditions and circumstances that we can easily get angry. If we observe the reactions and words in the work we do every day, we will find a lot of justification when you lose your temper, or even at the threshold of losing temper. Warming anger expressed through words, gestures, changes in our facial expressions, voice over, irritable, through our actions and the rising tone.
And when we do not control it anymore, we started screaming and kicking things, a door slammed shut, banging the table, banging the phone or even assault or assault others. In such circumstances, we do not know kill or restrain anger and rage they can even die from sudden heart attack.
Temper our anger over the change of emotional strength. Those hot temperament, very easy to anger. Those who have gentle temperament, always in a state of calm, peaceful after sulking went through. There farmer nagging jealous hatred, and forgive people easily, ignored. No matter what it is, then that event still exists for us all angry, just a difference in the strength of your feelings and emotions frequency only. So even those with the most amiable temper, can also manifest signs of annoyance, anxiety, anger patience when he surpassed or when he suffered under too much pressure.
We should not be angry? Is that good things do not get angry? It used to anger and others scream and then loses his temper and not the murderous? Anger has become the way of life of some people in the world right? We took it for granted and accept it as a natural and unavoidable it reasonable? When reading the magazine today, we find a lot of facts about anger and hatred of the people of our planet. Read about all the struggles and wars going on in all parts of the world, have we ever wondered why people can not live together peacefully as brothers and sisters can be a eh? Why are we so indifferent, so cruel, so inhuman? Why do some people kill innocent people to win what they want? Why are many countries compete to produce nuclear weapons that can destroy humanity in the world? Why is there so much fear and mistrust of each other?
Anger and love are rooted in our hearts. One thing we firmly believe that anger is a bad thing, we absolutely must stop them, starting with the hearts and minds of us. It is an emotional destruction caused much suffering in the world and in our lives. It starts from our minds and the minds of its origin, it should be checked and eliminated. In the preamble of the Charter of UNESCO (the United Nations Culture) said as follows: "Since wars begin in the minds of the children come from, is also from the human mind that safeguarding peace can be done ... ". In his book "Step into the life of enlightenment," writes as follows: "You can kill as many sinners? There are countless number of people in this world. But if the heat of the moment thought to be destroyed, all the enemy to be destroyed as well. "
Anger makes our lives miserable. If we do not continue to anger and efforts to curb it, we will continue to live in anxiety, insecurity. Every time we only frustrating for trifles, irritability, anger, we started going crazy. This hot burning sensation increases with the intensity of anger. Anger as strong, hot burning sensation as strongly as we ... That is a very painful feeling. You can observe it in yourself. Next time, if you are anxious or angry things, observe mental states and heart rate, and you will see the pain and the hurt of yourself are suffering in states anger, confusion and annoyance.
Anger is a healthy state of mind, the Buddha never allow something to anger. In Buddhism, there is nothing to be angry attack properly considered. All the anger from the low or high levels are also bad. It's like a poison injected into our minds. Thus the Buddha advised us to "take turns anger into love." He also said: "resentment never overcome resentment. Only love can soothe the resentment-this is an eternal law." He also said: "Let's Conquer the angry man by love for her."
Start with a smile, the Buddha said: "even if a thief took a saw to cut off our limbs, we should not show anger. If we convey irritation, anger away we do not listen to his teachings. Instead, he urges us to be giving love to his tormentors., he said that "because you need to train myself to you." Status do not worry, embarrassment should keep in our minds, we should continue to say the words themselves damage, should express sympathy with another, let the heart filled with love, liberation free from malice, malice still hideout., and D? i with the tormentors (the thieves are cutting our limbs), let cool water with loving thoughts immense multitude term, to escape the anger of revenge.
Buddha's love really is flawless. Once the Bodhisatta (Bodhisattva, a future Buddha), in the countless lives he shall know how the torture, risen from the dead without nurturing a tiny something cherished resentment against those who revenge. And as the Buddha, he was always calm and to remain peaceful. His never states calmly and relaxed swing move. When Nalagiri ferocious elephant attacks him, he has the gift of love to overcome from it. In 45 years of preaching, with some short life was a strange illustrative example of the love of charity.
Not only Buddha was the only teacher preaching love. All great men as well as the faculty. Jesus Christ said: "Love your neighbor as you love thyself this: if someone slapped my right cheek, turn the left cheek just ask him and the other one more." Mahatma Gandhi, the famous non-violent supporters said: "If the blood flow, just letting it flow. Prepared courage for death secret without killing. Because men live in position ready to accept death, if need be within reach of his brother, never kill him. " This statement reminds us the story of a monk who was threatened by a violent general. The general shouted: "You know, I am a person who can kill without feeling remorse." The priest replied: "Sir, I'm can be killed without blame." Faced with brave hearts who, generals who removed without harming the monk.
In addition to poisoning our minds, anger, hatred is also a danger to the health of our bodies. Medical science has proven that anger and those feelings have other health hazards can contribute to bring the body of pathogens. When we get angry, our bodies release chemicals that can disrupt the physiological balance. If our behavior to become habit, it can lead to illness illness lasts classifieds, such as: stomach ulcers, indigestion, constipation, high blood pressure, heart disease and even cancer anymore.
On the other hand, the mental state of peace and calm, balance can lead to physical and mental. We will be healthier, happier and more confident life. Some chronic conditions such as indigestion may be disturbed and we can also be resolved. The disease can also be prevented. A serene mental clarity will be demonstrated through the skin of the face and body. We go anywhere and get people to love, people prefer. No one likes dealing with a temperamental anger or anger easily. Take an example: A boss always scowling or yelling with the staff, he was not pleased anyone and everyone shunned. When the opportunity, these employees will leave him. In contrast with the boss is always smiling, kind and help, one who never or rarely loses his temper is always to get people interested and loved. With a boss like that, very few staff left him even higher salaries elsewhere.
Furthermore, your ethics will influence people to contact you, you are a good example for others to follow. We can change the world, make it better and more honest people based on the establishment of a typical model is not? Well, was. Through our own changes and set a model, we are actually making a positive contribution to a better world. Take that: The world is made up of humans, human-made world. If you change the people, you are changing the world. And we started our own right, after all, you are not the only person living on this earth. So when you change, you will change the world in the context of a person will be less easy to anger. If more people change, the world will increasingly be more changes. The more people who love and live in peace, the chaos, the world's conflicts will be reduced.
Get to know the toxicity of anger can bring us and others, let's dispel anger and giving loving kindness. Let kindness, patience, kindness and helping others. We should not gruff. We do not let others confused, bewildered and awkward. Take a look around and noticed that there was too much pain in the world, we do not add on anymore. Instead, we take the comfort and peace, the torch is lit for those around us to safely and happier.
The anger and decided to spread the love is the first step. The next issue we will practice how? When anger surfaced, we do not restrain it easy, it takes a lot of effort and ingenuity to control anger. Therefore, in the following pages we will discuss the ways and techniques to control anger. The problem is mainly discussed mindfulness (Sati) and the generation of intellectual ( Yoniso manasikara ). Based on mindfulness we can quell anger soon after budding, even when it plays up. Applied arising more wisdom to explain why we do not get angry, and will remind us of the desire to banish anger quickly vanish from our minds. In the third section, we will present meditation on loving kindness ( Mettabhavana ), which is an antidote best anger. We believe that if you care to read, look at the reasons why we should not get angry, after all he does not want to anger, and anger once after emergence, he wanted to put it out immediately. And combined with the cultivation of mindfulness (sati) and loving-kindness ( metta ), he will be able to defeat the evil demon angry.
People can be happy. They can eradicate anger and hatred from the heart to take their heart and embodiment of great love, wisdom and love each other close.
T sage to (Sati) who first guard against the most loyal and anger and all the unhealthy state of mind. So what is mindfulness? It is the presence of wisdom, knowledge, know clearly taking place right at the time. So when the anger rise, you have to take, you have to quickly get in your body rise wrath. You must specify, recognize and say to yourself in your head: "Ah, I'm angry. I am angry" or you can specify short as "angry, angry." Or if you do not want to name, you can feel is anger present in the body.
So when indicated, dragged anger, criticism and the perception. This is an awareness test help to anger. Why do we have to specify it? Because anger emerges, it often engulfed us, even before we know it. It makes our minds and overshadowed much harm to our judgment. In other words, anger suppression of our minds. At that time we did not really know anything, then ultimately the mental state of mind we are angry. We do have anger wither, and we have to deal resist it. Our facial expressions change and start grumpy, science or even true hands scooped us screaming people around. Mindfulness control all the phenomena. It prevents anger engulfed us. Presence of mind is the need for the mind. Only understanding action soothes the feeling of heat. Instead of dealing with and resist anger, we will observe them. We will observe the burning sensation, emotion. And while the observations that follow, calm down anger first it will weaken and eventually collapse.
Moreover, when we observe anger, we do not pay attention to any person, any material or conditions around us is causing us anger. Instead, we monitor the mental state takes place in our hearts, to monitor the presence of emotional feelings or anger. Logically speaking, when our attention shifted from topics (eg causing agents) into the anger well aware of the anger, such as emotion, rage will be weak away. Because if we continue to focus on an object (such as a certain person), we will be angry, and it will matter more and more angry. But under the bright light of meditation, anger can not be developed further. It is controlled, and with the continued specify it on a weakened and eventually collapses.
And a very interesting thing is the anger to subside without any pressure or suppressed. You do not need teeth grinding, clenching fists or willpower, spirit to win rage. Instead, when you specify, rage will weaken and disappear. In particular, this can be seen clearly in the focus of meditation, when the concentration of the high level of meditation can knock enemies angry mood or other unfair actions specified by .
Another benefit that brings mindfulness is that it allows us to stop and correct decision or action event. When we are aware of and anger, we will not get emotionally involved. We have time to think and act wise decision. During such period, we have the opportunity to practice. Yoniso manasikara the Buddha called it a reflection of the intellectual proper consideration. If anger subsided completely specified at the outset, then we can practice meditation Yoniso manasikara by contemplation of the face of evil and harmful things when angry. During meditation, our anger will obviously weaken and then the more we are easily persuaded unpleasant rage and anger will subside gradually. A desire not to get angry or not angry anymore to continue to rise. And finally, the anger will disappear.
So the first rule is to practice mindfulness. If you have a habit of focusing on the concept of significant changes in mental state, you may be able to capture the rage immediately when it emerges. You can feel and know that your anger is growing, and based on this knowledge, you can soon extinguish it from the burgeoning completely remove it immediately before it can be in your face or in your actions. That is the miracle of mindfulness. It can immediately take down a healthy state of mind.
The next issue is the different ways we choose (for comparison) how to eliminate anger. We can not chase it thoroughly through mindfulness. There are many methods we can choose, compare.
In this book we will study the differences between them, and we believe that if you care to read, over time you will read to the last page, and fully realize the trouble, and the trouble pointless anger. You will never want to get angry again. A single sentence will be useful to you, which is your heart toward easily between people friendly, not angry anymore, always calm and cheerful. With the desire and healthy decisions, right, now you have the ability to reduce anger. Moreover, anger surfaced repeatedly as it still happens, it will no longer be strong and you also have the ability to recall and apply all the different antidote based on what we I will discuss below.
One thing to remember is that while mindfulness and thoughts in mind, there is no suppression of anger inspection process. Obviously, there is much anger softened during mindfulness or meditation. For western countries, they sometimes think that if we slow to anger, then it will not be good for our health. So according to this school, angry expression to relax the tension is a good thing. However, there are other schools that show excessive anger will also be harmful. In any case though, to give themselves "boom" for relaxing tension will not fit. With the approach of the Buddha-mail, or Buddha does not just allow it. On the contrary, He teaches us to love turned into anger, anger loose them, we're opening a box full of slides mind and are creating more bad karma. While the Gang have responsibility for damage or actions hurt others. At the highest level, we extinguish anger and sometimes the victims are innocent members of the community. Method for Buddhists that we discussed here is not related to anger. The mindfulness you mentioned not involved in the repression, it is just knowing the mental state of our ongoing. Identify and observe people's anger towards nature. And application of intellectual thought in anger control without the pressure of repression.
Arts calm and keep calm mood was completely eroded in the modern world of ours. Life is messy, anxiety, focus on creating material, indiscriminate production and consumption, glossy attractive exterior, advertising in the mass media, and many other issues modern life has contributed to the erosion of moral and spiritual values. We harm our spirit, we are always anxious, worried, confused mood, anxiety, fear and anger.
At a high level, we establish an equilibrium level of spiritual development, the simplicity, the situation is calm and quiet. To develop this calm, meditative discipline is not valid. Applying mindfulness meditation is the optimal approach. However, it is not within the scope of the problem goes deeper into the details of mindfulness meditation. It can be gleaned from various books for the same subject, meditation on love and generosity is a wonderful exercise, which is particularly effective against all forms of anger evil, hatred and cowardice. It applies to those who have the ideal temperament anger, hatred. Therefore, we will present teaching meditation on loving-generous in the next chapter.
Meanwhile, it is important that we try to cultivate and sustain a mood of calm and relaxation to keep anywhere. If we are consistent and determined efforts to do this are less likely to lose our temper or emotion excited by the disturbance caused, such as anger. So, from now we should try to maintain calm and consistent behavior in all our gestures. We should try to talk peacefully and with consideration, not noisy agitation. We should be used to test mindfulness mood confused, anxious and agitated when they emerge. We should keep our body in a state of calm and peaceful. We should continue daily activities as benign, consideration and determination then we will come to experience a world of peace, tranquility full of fun. While state and peaceful tranquility, you will find the power and ability to work and achieve your goals.
So dose "detoxify" the second is to cultivate and maintain a calm state and stability. -Holy Abba Dorotheus, who has spent years researching said: "What things beyond your reach, even if the problem is urgent and requires careful, I will not fight Comment or not to be anxious mood, confused. Having a certainty that everything you do no matter how big or small the resolution is 1/8 of the problem, while keeping the mood to be harassed, even even in the mood to accept that we should succumb to achieve this purpose, the time remaining chance is 7/8. So, if you're busy so few jobs and want to make it perfectly , trying to reach it. As I said above you just solved the eighth of the problem alone, and then if you keep your mood would not have compromised the chances of success 7 / 8. however, if in order to achieve the purpose of making sure you will lose yourself calm and damage or nuisance caused by the other half with another debate, this time you will lose 7/8 chance because protection eighth benefits?
As a Buddhist-mail, we should consider the advice and example of the Buddha, the Buddha demonstrated the patience to deal with thousands of provocative, teasing. He never gets angry instead he always love giving birth to them, that even those who hurt him. He never gets angry when Devadatta tried to find ways to kill him, when Cinca deliberately false charges he caused her to become pregnant, or when other sects deliberately false charges he killed a woman crossing the road .
Not only in life but in the last past life as a Bodhisattva (ie, the future Buddha), Buddha demonstrated the patience and great endurance. Khantivadijataka story (the story of the origin of the practice of patience) have demonstrated extraordinary patience of the Bodhisattva. In the story it tells of an evil king threatens Kalabu Bodhisattva who later became an ascetic. Kalabu King asked, "Hey guys recluse, You teach what?" Bodhisattva replied, "Lord, teach me the suffering people, patience."
"So the bear, patience is what?"
"It is a state of anger when others right beat or curse or insult her."
The king said: "So now I want to see the bear, his real patience" and ordered the execution whipped Bodhisattva. The Bodhisattva of the blueberries until his skin cracked and blood flow. King Kalabu Bodhisattva asked: "Do the other monks who teach what?"
Bodhisattva replied: "I teach people tolerability, patient, sir. Instead he thought the bear, my patience just outside. Calculate endure, my patience is not in the outside, where he can not see because of patience, I had to endure the deep, clinging to my heart. "
Due to the selfish, he ordered the execution of the hands and feet Bodhisattva. The issue was the implementation of the mandate and the Bodhisattva bleeding profusely.
The Bodhisattva king shouted: "He teaches what?"
"Lord, teach me patience and endure., But I think patience and endure in my arms and legs. It not only exists but has hidden there, clinging to the meat from time to time, blended into my bloodstream. "
The king ordered continued: "cut his ears and nose" and executions followed. The whole body of the Bodhisattva soaked in blood. The king also asked that question, the Bodhisattva well as previous reply, "Lord, teach me patience and endurance. But do not think that his stamina and my patience is in the ear and nose but it was ingrained in my heart. "
"The people can sit down and let's celebrate tolerance e Tubes, patience Thou" and then kicked the crabs bodhisattva and the look to go for victory.
The story of witnessing war from beginning to end has been cleaned in the blood of the Bodhisattva, tape wounds on the hands, feet, ears and nose, and begged forgiveness Bodhisattva everything. "O hermit, if he be angry, be angry with its own king and kingdom is not angry."
Bodhisattva replied that "I am not angry with anyone, neither king was angry because he had hurt me. I only wish that a king shall reign lasting just as I will never angry now. " And the Bodhisattva who died that day. It is said that because of the wicked, the king was struck by lightning and rebirth in the realms Avivi , hell.
So, it comes to patience and do not arouse the wrath of the Bodhisattva is the inspiration and lessons for all of us. So is the Buddha-mail, if we want to be disciples of the Buddha, we must try to pay attention to the advice of his security. Because right at last birth, he was smiling on the LAN. He said whether thief cut or cut our limbs, we should not be angry that we love giving generously to them and let's pray that "all human beings and the name This theft will satisfy and happy. " No doubt, this is the hardest advice to implement, but it gave us to understand that "the teachings of the Buddha has no place for anger to win." And we will be good practice for my heart filled with love and get rid of all the anger and ignorance. So think about that next time we will balance the state's better to check our anger when it emerged.
Life is mobile shadow, a bad actor, Vinh, the surly take his time on stage and no one mentions it anymore. This is the story told by idiots, full of sound aberration, nothing special at all. - Shakespeare, Macbeth.There are those who do not know that people living in this world and also to die. And who knows, they argue instead it stays calm. - Buddhist discourse.
In the above verse, Shakespeare reminds us that sometimes in life we have to live in the injury, death and the stupid actions. And the last words of the Buddha also timely reminder that the obvious presence of death is all around us every step closely. Yes, we do not deny the fact that, while we are angry, agitated, we often forget that someday die if we do not? But when thinking about death, we often say to ourselves that: "A! Angry it worth it? Life is too short people, soon we all must die. Floating angry or anxious did not go, just to make us only more annoying. therefore I do not take things to their sorrow. safety department I live with myself and the world, the people around. After all, you do not work, then we are not alone ... With the wisdom of thinking like you can go to the people and decided to fight back with fury.
In fact, at least once a day we reflect on the death is a good thing. The Buddha taught us maranasati (reflect on death) so that we can develop the sense of urgency in meditation and the cultivation of wisdom. Contemplating death will start up, we are trying to promote living a life full of meaning and responsibility, not wasting time pursuit of the wrong things that are not beneficial. For vipassana , meditation teacher Joseph Goldstein said: "If we accept death as our advisor, every moment we live with the power and fullness. contribution we will end strength for mankind. "
So, always remember: "Life is temporary, but death is evident" or "Alas! Human life is so short, always be limited and fleeting, painful and full system suffering ". People must understand wisely, do good and holy life direction, by people who did not escape death?.
You do not want to hurt yourself to? Of course, nobody wants to hurt yourself. But when we are angry, we are truly hurting ourselves. In meditation instruction book Visuddhi Magga (Purity) said: "While angry with others, you can hurt or hurting him, but one thing is sure that you are hurt. And when you get angry like the other guys who want to rock and holding red coals or smelly shit so first you burn yourself or do you have smelly ". Oh! There have been people stupid than you already! Yes, our anger can hurt or harm others but have certain things that we are doing ourselves harm us. How hurt? First, we are beginning to poison us through those times angry, because anger (dosa) is a mental state is not healthy in the heat of the moment and we are hurting and contaminate the our minds. As the Buddha-mail, we should know that any unhealthy state of mind leads to bad consequences ( akusala vipāka ). So if we do not want a bad result, it is wise to steer out of ignorance and all the unhealthy state of mind.
As we mentioned before, the mental state is related to the health of the body. Through the research of Paul Pearsall, an American doctor who is "Every thought and feeling associated with rain chemistry of the brain that affects millions of cells." He also stressed that "our health may evolve over the excessive control of emotion." In the book "super immunity" by Dr. Pearsall has written: "The invisible things such as thoughts and feelings can cause disease and make the body become healthy ... The bacteria, germ disease continuously hovering around us, but we did not stay and hang if the terrain is not suitable. terrain is fertilizer compensation by thinking, perception, sensation and perception. "
Another doctor, U Aung Thein explained in the journal "Biology and the meditation of the Buddha-element" that unhealthy emotions can disrupt the biochemical balance of the body. The chemicals secreted by the body is the result of our emotions can cause adverse effects to other organs, such as: the thyroid adrenal cortex, and the digestive tract regeneration of cells.
Take, for example, anger is the cause of the epinefrine secrete chemicals that have the opposite effect to increase blood pressure, heart rate and oxygen consumption of prolonged or frequent occurrence of the mental state unhealthy can cause diseases Classified as: ulcers in the digestive system, indigestion, heart problems and even cause cancer.
Realizing the dangerous consequences of anger and mood unhealthy effects on both mind and body, the more quickly we have decided to remove the negative emotions. We must try to quickly rid them out of our minds when we stand up. The decision of the patient and keep the spirit of relaxed circumstances.
Men and women are very bad when angry. If you look in the mirror see your face grimaced when angry, make sure you will not like. Perhaps all of us who have a small mirror out of pocket to get angry when we can quickly draw inspiration see his beautiful face when angry. Maybe it's instant antidote to extinguish the flames in our own yard.
Even as a beauty queen if she is angry habit gradually fade over time also ugly. The wrinkles will get worse before age when she always scowling. Or her facial expression is not always sympathetic, always fighting, making things for others shunned. Conversely, a person always smiling and always gentle itself, rarely angry, always had a true love. He or she has to go to where people are warmly welcomed and loved.
The people in this life is ugly in a previous life because they always angrily. Legislation is written now it turns out that those who carry resentment or anger temperament afterlife if reborn as a human being will look very ugly or even repulsive. So we are the Buddha-mail, believe in karma, the law of nature and natural law that sow so shall you reap. We must curb out angrily attacks. If you get angry, think about the bad karma that can happen to you and you quickly calming anger.
We must control our actions whether we do anything we will have to suffer. In teaching about the law of karma Buddha said: "Hey, monks, people are owners of their actions." They are heirs to their actions. Action is the cradle of humanity. People associated with their actions. Their action was a haven. They do anything good or bad to heirs.
Recognizing this, we feel anxious to have temper or irritability or revenge. Why is that? Because the state of anger or irritability, he was piled into a heap of bad karma that one day he will suffer the results of which are not pleasant at all. If he does not change his habits that can last from hell. And if we return with hostility or irritability, anger, we will also no better than him. Finally, we will fall into hell.
When we think about law industrialization, we'll calm. Because modernization law is a law we must impose liability burden. Each of us must take responsibility for our work. If a person do wrong, he will have to suffer the bad. Everything we do, we must flee from the wrath and all the unhealthy state of mind.
Everyone has good qualities. If we can see the good points of others, we can not get angry at it. He can help us in one way or another. When we recall the good qualities of him and the job he has done in the past. We will feel soft and calm down. We should also remember that no one is perfect and even we ourselves also mistakes again. Buddha said: take a look at our mistakes and fixing them better is to look at the mistakes of others. That being said notice a mistake ourselves better is found thousands of others mistakes.
When we are angry, we should not act or say anything. So in that mood, what we can do or say is not true. We can either do or say something hurtful that we regret this. After this, even when we say "sorry" is also too late, because the damage has already happened. A compromised is unlikely to help him change attitudes or feelings about ourselves.
So when the anger rise, we should go ice cold like a piece of wood and so on. Only after we quell anger, let us say or do something. So we fall back on the principle of action only after the mind has calmed and relaxed. At the time, what we will do better and will not cause us to repent or regret later.
Once the Buddha told his disciples Asuras "Hey Asuras, this event has long since not only today, they reprimanded him for his behavior because he kept silent, they blame him because he was talking too much, they blame him because he speaks slowly, no one in the world could not be blamed at all? If we observe ourselves, we see that This is true. Nobody in this world, escape censure. they're doing anything and someone somewhere was looking out our mistakes. Understanding the nature of such work, we should not be upset or angry when blamed.
However, what we can do is look at the reasons why a reprimand. If it is true that we are wrong, then we slowly calm to correct. But if we blame the wrong way, we do not have mental disorders. We can justify our actions and why reprimanded ridiculous. After doing all the things we can do, we are not overly concerned about the reprimand. We should practice the calm, relaxed and think one thing that even Buddha can not escape blame. An example when He was on earth, the Buddha was criticized for eating meat, we are trying to blame the author is affiliated with Cinca, and an act of murder over the woman.
Another important thing is that we did the right thing and we did everything we could. When we do that, we will not have anyone to blame when there is no wise man or someone who understands our position and the reason for the action, will never blame us . Only those who are stupid or do not understand the reasons and circumstances of the actions we reprimand. Yes, it's an inevitable thing in life, because we do anything and still get blamed or criticized. What we can do is try to do the right things to reduce the risk of reprimand to a minimum. After all, if we still get blamed ie we do not know what we can do and it is necessary to make it look like.
If we consider why we are angry, we will realize that we still have "sin" and perhaps "sin" that is too large. We still homogeneous, atta, "sin", "ego" is a. That is why we feel neglected and angry. If we do not consider "sin" and well understand the Buddha's teachings on anatta (no self) then we will not be anxious, depressed or angry, what can not be disturbed; provoke us all.
During his lifetime, the Buddha repeatedly provoked and challenged, yet the Buddha never angry, never lost his temper at all. In business, we can not find any signs of the Buddha showed us angry, on the contrary, insisted that the Buddha had eradicated all the hatred and anger can not afford. So even if the Buddha had taught that occasion a determination or a monk's disciples mistake, he also taught that a calm, not angry.
Likewise, the Arahant level (A-la-han) who has attained enlightenment and did not make it angry. For example: You Sariputta, the chief disciple of the Buddha known for its famous extraordinary patience and humility of God.
Once a group of people praising the virtues of Sariputta said: "The His patience our elders so extraordinary that even when people insult and beat him, he did not show signs angry ".
A private non-Brahmins, retorted asked "Does anyone in this world that do not get angry?" provocation and vowed his elders. One day, he was approached from behind and punched his Sariputta a hard punch him back.
Sariputta He noted: "It's what?" has not even crossed her arms round turned back look. Moments later, Brahmins felt remorse and elders knelt at his feet and asked forgiveness. His elder asked amiably: "Forgive what?"
Brahmans responded fully repentant, remorseful: "Forgive me because I want to try his patience, I was hitting him."
"Very good. I forgive you."
Then Sariputta home Brahmins invited him to lunch. But they see a bunch of people are preparing to fight a crazy, violent attacks and want to Brahmins. Sariputta stop them and asked: "For you or for me, he was beaten?" "Yes, because of Him!" "Oh, if for me, he was beaten, he would forgive me and I forgive him. Guys take dissolved away." And in that noble manners, Sariputta was disbanded riot.
Humility of Sariputta also extraordinary as his patience. On another occasion, the chief author was a seven-year-old boy novices criticized for his string columns are not serious. That seems to be due to momentary carelessness, a portion of the wire was hanging down his bourgeois. When found out this rather annoying because Sariputta was criticized by a child are from the age of seven, he immediately stepped aside and tied his rope to strictly. Then he stepped before the new baby's hands in practice and said: "Master, now you're right, sir."
These qualities by virtue of an order that is the Arahant, the encouragement, and respect is a lesson for us. Why they did not make you angry? Because they eradicate all inextricably linked to the "I" or "ego". No idea (accept) the toihay ego, they do not feel that "I am despised." Or "just a new kid tu seven dare to correct me, Sariputta, the chief disciple of the Buddha". Such thoughts do not appear in the top of Sariputta, because he had been a good thorough teaching of the Buddha is called anatta (no-self, no ego), he has eradicated all both anger and pride.
So, the next time we get angry, we have to understand that because we are still at least "I" or "ego". Then if we can realize the truth of anatta is that eventually there is no "I" here, the "I" which is the term or concept generally, we can consider how Sariputta to never lose your temper, even when injured and criticized strongly, despite his position as chief disciples of the Buddha. There are pondering so, we have the ability to control our anger.
Next issue to be considered is "Who is angry?" "What are you angry?" Atta? Or is the "I"? Remember, in the final sense, not you and not the person you are angry with it all. After all we are only able to form and matter, the elements and the process of mobilization.
So in Visuddhi Magga, who taught us to ponder dissected by our body into parts: "Now you mad at something? With hair, the hair, the nails or with urine ... ? due to factors in the soil or in the hair? country? train?, or air? ... Are you angry at a reasonable volume of materials?, or a block of sensation, perception, physical characteristics, consciousness? either by the look of the eyes ... ". Reflecting this, our anger will not find a foothold and will calm down.
Or we may think that we are all created by mind and matter. And mind and matter are always changing. Special attention is changing very fast, a notion arising and passing to r? T fast. We can say that it is like a bolt of lightning or a blink of an eye. Millions of thoughts moment can arise up and disappear. So, we are angry with something? We're mad at someone? The mind and the material that you've gone mad. From the Children? Tumor group, the mind and matter has taken place for them then. Think how anger can subside.
Buddha said there is beginning the cycle of reincarnation. We walked through Samara , wandering journey and subsistence, as too long that we have ancient relatives together at a certain level or more. So Buddha said: "This monk masters, not easy to find a person that previously was not his mother, father, a brother, a sister, a son, a daughter .. .'s the teacher. " So it's not for us to make any foster resentment against who in past lives with our relatives. Think of the intellect, our anger may subside.
One of the reasons we get angry, we do not have the ability to forgive and forget. So we get angry easily, and the end result is that we tend to nurture the bitterness in my heart, resentment or hatred for some discontent that has brought us (the real sometimes mean that real or imagined). Although, sometimes we think that we forgive but we take in our heart to forgive completely. A conscious or unconscious, we still raised a little bitterness or resentment. If we can learn to leave it be, entirely arbitrarily forgive, we will live a life of peace and happiness - no longer carry the burden of resentment, or anger .. .
Known tolerance of it is true: "Most merciful love of love" and "the scent of violet species spread themselves under the heel when stepping on it." "It's like the title may have been canceled covenant removed, torn in half and burn it off so that it never turned back against us humans harm. If we have true love, if we have love for humanity strong, we will be able to fully forgive all a whole mind, the whole attention forgiveness without any conditions or reservations thing.
So forgive us something? We forgive any wrong things what other people have done for us, just like we like others to forgive the wrong actions we have done to them. We do not seek revenge. We restrain anger, do not say or do something hurtful or insulting behavior was bad for us. We forgive, not to foster jealousy or unwilling to them, please understand that all of us have faults and weaknesses.
It is true, we forgive others, we should also forgive ourselves for our past can sometimes work we did something wrong and now we find it difficult to forgive ourselves. We have to repentance and remorse. Repentance that make us worry, distress and physical pain. The Buddha taught that what we do should not depressed about what we have done, but let's tackle it and not to repeat mistakes, and that we can get compensation. We should leave behind the unfortunate period and do not repeat or suffer the occasional pang of regret lap.
If memories arise, we should specify it (eg, mindfulness) and should not fret, worry about it. We should resolutely up that thought aside, please understand that there is nothing more that we can do except to make compensation and decided not to repeat the mistake again. Sometimes we catch ourselves must comply with the requirements and expectations too much for us. But we should also acknowledge the shortcomings of the reason people have the inherent right and all of us are not gods. We can not get rid of it, but if we work with a firm and patient, eventually we will reach the goal and destination. So we need patience, and persistence decisions.
When we consider the benefits of cultivating loving kindness we do not want to get angry again. The Buddha taught that meditation with love kindness can bring benefits 11: He or she is asleep easily, wake up awake, dreaming nightmares, the lovable, is the hidden and protection of the gods, fire, poison and weapons will not harm him, he easily attracts attention, his face serene, delicate, he died peacefully, peacefully like falling into a sleep. If he does not achieve "arahatship", after death he will be reborn in the kingdom "brahma" noble. Discussing the benefits of this will be discussed more in the meditation practice loving kindness. But in a nutshell, these benefits are supreme desire and enough to tempt us to anger and remain calm. Conversely, if we let anger rise ie we reject this benefit. Thinking like that will also act as a deterrent let us resist with anger.
In some cases, we can tell a few things too. For example, a person who does not seem to like us and always say bad things about us. In such cases we responded very easy by angry and fight back. But that is not the behavior of the Buddha-death, the Buddha's motto is: Never take revenge resentment but rather to respond to that love. So let us overcome the challenges and make the most difficult thing for him by purchasing a gift! That's the sign of nobility and generosity of our enemies even bad intentions to us, nor should we nurture malice, no goodwill with them.
Then we can calm and steadfast, you can recognize that we must deny, limit to be drawn into any collisions or mad with anger or malice. And so the enemy will also understand the actions, the noble gesture of ours, and gradually he also changed the look of us. Even he also became friendly to us too? So for a gift can make a surprise and is something that we can see what is being done in certain situations.
We conclude this section here. In the previous section we discussed a lot about the perspective we can accept repressed anger and remain calm. We hope that you have read the track will have ever more determined to abandon cultivating anger and love. In the next section, we will discuss how meditation practice loving kindness.
1) The first rule of: Mindfulness.
2) Consistency in practice to keep a calm mind.
3) Considering the example of the Buddha.
4) Be aware that all of us someday also to die.
5) Make you look back on the harmful consequences of anger.
6) Take a look in the mirror.
7) Be aware that we must do all our actions.
8) Please comment on the good side of it.
9) Cold as ice!
10) No one can avoid a reprimand.
11) Why are we angry?
12) Who was angry?
13) Please know that all of us have relatives with together.
14) Forgiveness.
15) Consider the benefits of loving kindness.
16th) for gifts. END=VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY THICH CHAN TANH.THE MIND OF ENLIGHTMENT=WORLD VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST ORDER=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.2/11/2013.NAM MO SAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).
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